You love being a mom, but let’s be honest—it’s easy to lose yourself in the day-to-day chaos. The constant diaper changes, school drop-offs, endless snack-making, and the never-ending mental load... somewhere along the way, you got buried under all of it. If you’re reading this, you’re probably wondering, “Where did I go? Who am I outside of being ‘Mom’?”

Girl, I get it. We pour everything into our kids, our family, our home—and somewhere in the middle of all that, we forget who we are. But here’s the thing: finding yourself again doesn’t mean you’re turning your back on motherhood. It means reconnecting with the parts of you that might’ve gotten lost. It’s time to rediscover the you beyond the diapers, playdates, and chaos. Let’s dive into how you can reconnect with yourself—and why it’s so important for your happiness.

Why It’s So Easy to Lose Yourself in Motherhood

Motherhood is a full-time, all-consuming role, and it’s easy to see why so many of us lose sight of who we are outside of it. Between the constant demands from your family and the pressure to keep everything together, it’s no wonder you’re feeling a little lost. But realizing how and why this happens is the first step toward reclaiming you.

The Mental Load of Motherhood

Let’s talk about that invisible mental load—the one no one else sees, but we all carry. You know, the constant planning, scheduling, and worrying about what needs to be done: Did I pack enough snacks? Did I RSVP for that birthday party? Am I remembering everything? It’s no wonder we get lost. Our brains are so busy keeping everyone else on track, it’s easy to forget our own needs. And that mental load? It’s exhausting.

The Pressure to Be “On” All the Time

We’ve all felt it—that unspoken pressure to be the perfect mom 24/7. Social media doesn’t help either, with everyone posting their picture-perfect moments, making us feel like we’re always falling short. But the reality is, being “on” all the time leaves no space for you. When was the last time you had the mental bandwidth to think about what you want, without feeling guilty? Exactly. That’s why it’s so easy to lose ourselves. We’re too busy trying to keep up with everyone else’s needs.

Signs You’ve Lost Yourself in Motherhood

Not sure if you’ve lost yourself? You’re not alone. It’s easy to feel disconnected without even realizing it because we’ve gotten so used to putting ourselves last. But there are a few key signs that might tell you it’s time to rediscover the you beyond the mom role.

You Can’t Remember the Last Time You Did Something Just for You

When was the last time you did something purely for your own joy? Not for your kids, not for your family, but for you? If you’re drawing a blank, that’s a huge sign you’ve been running on autopilot. Motherhood can sometimes feel like one big to-do list, and we get so caught up in it that we forget to feed our own souls. You deserve time that’s just for you, even if it’s just a few minutes.

You Feel Disconnected from Your Passions

Remember that thing you used to do that lit you up? Maybe it was painting, reading, writing, or even just taking long walks by yourself. If that feels like a distant memory, you’re not alone. We let go of our passions, telling ourselves there’s no time for them anymore. But here’s the truth: finding yourself again starts with reconnecting with those passions, even in small ways.

Your Identity Feels Tied to “Mom” Only

Being a mom is amazing, but you’re so much more than that. If you’re struggling to remember who you are outside of “Mom,” it’s time to start reclaiming those parts of you that existed before motherhood. You’re allowed to have dreams, goals, and desires that aren’t just about your kids. In fact, it’s crucial to your mental well-being that you do.

How to Start Finding Yourself Again as a Mom

Finding yourself again doesn’t have to be overwhelming. In fact, it’s about taking small steps to reconnect with what makes you happy. Whether it’s revisiting old passions or carving out more time for yourself, it’s about slowly shifting the focus back to you in ways that feel doable.

Step 1: Start Small—Reconnect with Old Passions

Here’s the thing: you don’t need to overhaul your entire life to start feeling like yourself again. Start small. Think about the things that used to make you feel alive before motherhood took center stage. Maybe it’s something you haven’t done in years—painting, reading, yoga, or even taking a solo trip to Target without a kid in sight. Pick one thing, and start making space for it. You don’t need hours—just 15 minutes a day to do something that’s just for you can make a world of difference.

Step 2: Create Space for Yourself in Your Daily Routine

We all know how chaotic a day can get, so if you don’t carve out time for yourself, it’s not going to happen. I know it sounds impossible, but block out even 10-15 minutes in your daily routine that’s yours. Maybe it’s before the kids wake up or after they go to bed. Use that time to read, meditate, exercise, or just sit in silence. Trust me—taking this time for yourself will remind you that you matter too.

Step 3: Let Go of the Guilt

This is a big one. We’ve been taught to believe that focusing on ourselves is selfish—but it’s not. In fact, the more you take care of yourself, the better you’ll be able to show up for your family. Let go of the guilt that tells you you’re not allowed to take time for you. The truth is, you need it. You’ll be a better mom, partner, and person for it.

Step 4: Connect with Your Inner Child

When was the last time you did something purely for fun—no responsibilities, no outcomes, just play? One of the best ways to reconnect with yourself is to tap into your inner child. Remember those things you loved as a kid—jumping on a trampoline, drawing, dancing without a care in the world? Do something silly, playful, and carefree. Let yourself laugh and be joyful without worrying about what’s next. Connecting with your inner child can reignite that sense of curiosity and freedom you used to have.

Step 5: Take Yourself on a Date

This might sound a little strange at first, but trust me on this one—take yourself on a date! Get dressed up (or not!), pick a place you love, and spend some quality time with you. Whether it’s going to a coffee shop, browsing a bookstore, or taking yourself out to dinner, the goal is to enjoy your own company. Reconnecting with yourself means making time to nurture your relationship with you—and a solo date is a perfect way to do that.

Step 6: Find “Glimmers” Throughout Your Day

We hear so much about triggers—the things that set us off—but what about the little “glimmers” of joy throughout your day? A glimmer is a small moment that makes you feel good—a warm cup of coffee in the quiet morning, a hug from your child, the way the sun shines through the window. Start paying attention to those glimmers. These small moments can bring you back to the present, reminding you that joy can be found even in the busiest days. The more you notice them, the more connected you’ll feel to your own happiness.

Rediscovering Your Identity Beyond Motherhood

Finding yourself again isn’t just about revisiting old interests; it’s also about embracing who you are now and who you’re becoming. This journey of rediscovery can be exciting and transformative. Let’s talk about how to explore new interests and build a support system that encourages your personal growth, all while balancing motherhood.

Explore New Interests

Sometimes, who we were before kids isn’t exactly who we are now. That’s okay! Rediscovering yourself might mean trying something new. Maybe you’ve always wanted to learn photography, take up gardening, or start journaling. Don’t be afraid to explore new interests that excite you. Finding something new that lights you up can help you feel more connected to yourself and offer a fresh sense of purpose.

Surround Yourself with People Who Support Your Growth

It’s crucial to have people in your life who lift you up and encourage you to be more than just “Mom.” Whether it’s a close friend, your partner, or even an online community of like-minded moms, surround yourself with people who get it and cheer you on in your journey to reconnect with yourself. Having that support will keep you grounded and remind you that you deserve to prioritize you.

How to Balance Being a Mom and Finding Yourself Again

One of the biggest challenges for moms is learning how to balance taking care of their family and making time for themselves. It’s not about neglecting one for the other—it’s about finding harmony between the two. And guess what? It’s absolutely possible to be an amazing mom while still prioritizing your own happiness and growth.

Set Boundaries with Your Time

Learning to set boundaries is one of the most important things you can do. It’s okay to say no to commitments that drain you or stretch you too thin. Maybe it’s asking your partner to handle bedtime once a week so you can have some time to yourself, or saying no to that extra volunteer task at school. Protect your time and energy like it’s gold—because it is. When you set healthy boundaries, you create the space to focus on yourself without guilt.

Involve Your Family in Your Journey

Finding yourself again doesn’t have to be something you do completely on your own. In fact, it can be empowering to let your family know what you’re trying to do. Share with them that you’re working on reconnecting with the parts of you that sometimes get lost in motherhood. By opening up, you not only get their support, but you also show your kids that it’s okay for moms to have passions and interests outside of the family. You’re modeling self-care and self-love for them, too.

How Mom Life Coaching Can Help You Find Yourself Again

Sometimes, figuring out how to rediscover yourself as a mom can feel overwhelming. That’s where I come in. As a mom life coach, I’ve been in the trenches with you and helped countless moms rediscover who they are, reconnect with their passions, and build a life that includes more than just “Mom.” Together, we can create a plan that works for you—one that balances family, personal growth, and happiness.

Personalized Support to Help You Reconnect

You don’t have to figure this out alone. Through personalized coaching, I’ll help you reconnect with the things that make you feel whole. Whether that’s rediscovering old hobbies, finding new passions, or just learning how to carve out time for yourself without guilt, I’m here to guide you through the process. This is your journey, and I’ll help you find the path that feels right for you.

Ready to Reclaim You?

If you’re ready to start feeling like yourself again, I’m here to help. Together, we’ll work on practical steps to rediscover the parts of you that may have gotten lost in the chaos of motherhood. Let’s talk! Schedule a free consultation today, and let’s start working on a plan to bring you back to the forefront of your life.

Conclusion: It’s Time to Rediscover You

The bottom line? You’re not just “Mom”—you’re a whole, multi-layered, incredible person with dreams, passions, and desires outside of motherhood. It’s possible to be a great mom and reconnect with yourself. Remember, finding yourself again doesn’t have to be a huge, overwhelming process—it can start with small, intentional steps.

• Start small: Whether it’s revisiting an old passion or finding a new hobby, take time for yourself without guilt.

• Involve your family: Share your goals with those around you and let them support you in this journey.

• Find your “glimmers”: Those tiny moments of joy throughout the day are your reminders that you’re still you.

Most importantly, remember that prioritizing your own happiness makes you a better mom, partner, and person. You deserve to feel like yourself again—and I’m here to help you make that happen.

With Love and a Whole Lot of Real-Life Imperfection,