How to Recharge as a Busy, Overstimulated Mom
As I sit here, surrounded by the ‘delightful’ chaos of my four little ones, I can’t help but think about the whirlwind that is motherhood. The laughter, the tantrums, the sticky fingerprints on every surface—it’s all part of this beautiful, messy journey. But let’s be honest: sometimes it feels like we’re riding a rollercoaster through a sensory overload theme park. The world bombards us with information, notifications, and expectations, leaving us feeling like we’re perpetually plugged into an electrical outlet.
Overstimulation—it’s a word that resonates deeply with me. As a mom, I wear many hats: chef, chauffeur, referee, storyteller, and occasional superhero. But amidst the sassy attitudes and snack negotiations, I often find myself begging for a moment of quiet. A pause button for life, if you will. How do we find balance in the never-ending demands? How do we recharge our own batteries while keeping everyone else’s charged too?
Here are some strategies that have helped me navigate the overstimulated waters of motherhood:
Embrace Imperfection: As moms, we carry the weight of perfection on our shoulders. We want our homes to be spotless, our kids to be well-behaved, and our Instagram feeds to be envy-inducing. But guess what? Imperfection is our superpower. It’s okay if the laundry pile resembles Mount Everest or if dinner is a creative mishmash of leftovers. Let go of the need to be flawless, and you’ll find more room for joy.
Create Sacred Spaces: Amidst the chaos, carve out pockets of tranquility. Maybe it’s a cozy corner with a cup of herbal tea, a few deep breaths, and a favorite book. Or perhaps it’s a garden bench where you can watch the sunset while the kids play nearby. These sacred spaces are your lifelines—they’re where you recharge your spirit.
Unplug Strategically: Our phones are both lifelines and energy vampires. Set boundaries. Designate tech-free zones and times. When you’re at the park with your little ones, resist the urge to check emails. Instead, watch them chase butterflies and soak in their laughter. Be present.
Prioritize Self-Care: Remember the oxygen mask analogy on airplanes? You have to put yours on first before assisting others. As moms, we often neglect self-care, thinking it’s selfish. But it’s essential. Whether it’s a bubble bath, a yoga class, or a solo walk in the woods, prioritize yourself. You deserve it.
Delegate and Collaborate: You don’t have to be a one-woman show. Involve your partner, older kids, or trusted friends. Delegate tasks. Share the load. And remember, asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness—it’s a sign of wisdom.
Celebrate Small Victories: Did you manage to drink a full cup of coffee while it was still hot? Victory! Did you survive a grocery store trip without a meltdown? High-five! Celebrate these small wins—they add up.
Practice Mindfulness: When the noise threatens to overwhelm you, close your eyes and breathe. Feel the ground beneath your feet. Listen to the birds. Be fully present in the moment. It’s a mini-reset button for your soul.
Remember you’re not alone in this overstimulated world. We’re all riding the same rollercoaster, gripping the safety bar, and occasionally screaming with delight. So, let’s find our balance, recharge our spirits, and savor the messy magic of motherhood.
I am here with you! With love and imperfection,
P.S. If anyone knows where to find that elusive pause button for life, please share. Asking for a friend. 😉